A revelation often occurs at the most painful of times. You’ve reached total exhaustion. You’ve worked your fingers to the bone. You have reached a boiling point. You have erupted at someone you love. You have tried to keep all the plates spinning in your life and you are instead hearing the plates smash all around you.
As it turns out, we all look silly wearing more than one hat. Yet we insist upon juggling multiple roles and dropping lots of balls.
What are we thinking?
We are thinking we will do all of the jobs better ourselves than someone else could do them. Does this sound like anyone you know?
Down deep? We know this isn’t true. We know we need help. But do we have the courage to admit it?
Doesn’t it seem that misery and pain and life’s greatest challenges come in threes? Just as soon as we think the smoke has cleared, the next bomb explodes in our face.
We don’t know it until we are in it. But here are some adjectives describing the state of affairs we see when we are ultimately asked for help.
- Stage 4 Cancer
- Family Caregiver BURNOUT
- Failure to Thrive
- Hospice Diagnosis
- Difficulty Helping my Spouse
How many of these are you presently experiencing? These are direct quotes from people just like you who have come to realize a few simple and realistic realities. Here is what they’ve come to realize:
- 1. They are human.
- 2. Their loved one deserves one-on-one attention
- 3. There is a lack of balance
- 4. There aren’t enough hours in the day
- 5. They can’t safely lift/bathe/dress their loved one
- 6. They have more roles and responsibilities than they can cover alone
- 7. Help would make an enormous difference
- 8. They want to stay at home and so does their spouse
- 9. It’s TIME!
- 10. Their sanity is an investment!!
We endeavor to serve those who have taken upon themselves to take courageous steps to cut through the smoke surrounding their life. Get to the real source of the fire and extinguish the dramatic flames that have begun to consume them.
It is sweet, sweet relief for family members when they muster the courage to get help.
Why get help? Here is the why that many family members we’ve served over the years have pointed out.
- Getting help at home salvages relationships that are fading.
- There’s finally time for “me”.
- The battle will grow harder. Our disease prognosis is known.
- Building a relationship NOW before it will be impossible LATER is a great choice.
- There’s a huge difference between rushing out for groceries and hoping everything is ok at home and having an entire day to run errands while someone is caring for my loved one while I am out.
- I am no longer putting myself at physical risk in lifting on my husband who is much heavier than I can safely lift.
What is the relief that you are seeking? What are the relationships you could have time for and obligations you can satisfy if you had 15-20 or 30 hours a week to do them?
In our next article we will highlight some of the traits of our talented staff of caregivers. Stay tuned to learn more about our great team of care and how we can help your family.
Call us today and learn about how easy it really is to receive care in your home.
Ben Smith is the Founder, President and C.C.I.C. (Chief Caregiver In Charge) at Always There Home Care. Our company exists to serve the family caregiver by enabling them help at critical times and fostering relationships that become strained without help at home.
With 5 Years in Hospice Management and 20 Years in Home Health Care, Ben Smith is a resource to families all over Columbus who have benefitted from his care, assistance and the support of the team of caregivers from Always There Home Care.
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